Where Is Mother

19 February 2002

Laura Ingalls Wilder said, "The older we grow the more precious become the recollections of our childhood days, especially our memories of mother. Her love and care halo her memory with brighter radiance, for we have discovered that nowhere else in the world is such loving self-sacrifice to be found; her counsels and instructions appeal to us with greater force than when we received them because our knowledge of the world and our experience of life have proved their worth. Dearer even than mother's teachings are little, personal memories of her, different in each case but essentially the same-mother's face, mother's touch, mother's voice..." I see a great sadness in our society today. It is a kind of bitterness toward motherhood, as if this were some mundane lifestyle that only the boring and uneducated are forced to enjoy. Yet, I find the true blue mother, the one who knows her calling and seeks to do a good job, accomplishing things that movie stars and those appearing with the rich an famous seem to miss. It is this kind of mother that sets the example of virtue. Virtue is not just good morals. Though it does mean that, in scripture, it adds the dynamics of force and power. It takes a Godly force to give children the correct answer in the right spirit, at the right time and live the answer. It takes a force unknown to the world to be the heart of a home rather than the action of the world. This is Christ-likeness, a self denying principle that has been spited by politicians and worldly women. Their view of motherhood has had an adverse effect on many mothers leading them away from their source of joy… ... .their home. Their problem is not with motherhood in general, it is with God and his intended purpose for mothers. As the angels left their first estate, so have many mothers. I have never heard a mother say, on her deathbed, "I wish I had spent less time with my children and family and more time at the job, at the club, at the sports event, at the shopping mall, at the card game, with the soap operas and etc." On a personal note, I must say that one of the greatest things about motherhood that I remember was the security of knowing that mother was there, on site, ever present for my largest and smallest needs. Just the presence of a mother sends worries and cares packing to unknown places. Whether it was a band aid or a problem, there was a sounding board, a voice that loved me above every other thing in the world that belonged to me. For the mature Christian, just knowing that God is ever present and knows our needs is a joy and comfort. This same security, joy, comfort is found in the arms of a loving mother. In one sense, the mother is the stepping stone to the Lord Himself on whom we come to rely. All of what I have said is found in the Bible in these few words that speak of a mother, "To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed"-Titus 2:5. For those who believe that motherhood is boring, mundane and lacking in personal fulfillment I encourage the following that will produce joy and meaning in a mother's life: Pray over each child every day. Ask the Lord what they need and how you can fill the void. Pray with each child every day. Have at least one meaningful conversation with each child every day. Tell each child you love them every day. Turn off the phone and t.v. and listen to every child every day and get to know them. Share their daily experiences with them when they come home from school. Talk of the Lord often and His blessings. Let them know He is your source of strength. Live what you tell them to do. Do things with them however small. Prioritize their existence, be present when they are home. Pray for God's assistance! When one begins this God given calling, other things will become less important and the true joy of motherhood will be found. I believe that in the heart of every mother is the cry, "I need a mother." "But what kind of mother do I need?", should be the obvious reply. The answer to that question should pierce the heart and become the looking glass for every mother to look into every morning. Come and worship with us at Harmony Primitive Baptist Church. Singing begins at 10:30 each Sunday morning followed by preaching at 11:00. By His mercy and grace, Neil Phelan, Jr., Pastor.